Pregnancy is a special time in a woman's life. She gets to carry a teeny human inside of her and nurture her flesh and blood with all her might. Her transformation is magical, and no one can take that away from her. Unfortunately, some hurt her by saying the wrong things and, at times, even refusing to treat her like a regular human. These instances remind us of what we should never say to pregnant women.
These Ladies Share The Worst Things They Heard While Being PregnantPublished 10 months ago
Some people cross the line regularly; it's like they have taken a special course and mastered the art of asking intrusive questions. They don't care if the person they are posting the query to is pregnant; it doesn't bother them that they may have just met too.
So what prompts someone to ask a heavily pregnant woman what she'd do with her br$$st milk? Obviously, feed her child, but that's beside the point. Isn't it her private matter that she's not obligated to share with anyone, let alone a curious stranger? Hope the lady refused to answer and set the person right.
Pregnancy is the only time for most women to indulge their taste buds and growing appetites. Some of them have specific cravings, and the family members usually cater to their needs and cook them food they wish to eat in large quantities. It's really okay because she's actually eating for two.
Nurturing a tiny human inside you takes energy, and energy comes from food. Well, someone disagrees. This lady was in her first trimester and wanted to go out for ice cream on her birthday. She was told off for doing so with a warning not to eat so much, which is not a great thing to say to a pregnant lady; she's more than an incubator.
We live in a digital era where over-sharing has become the norm. So much so that not live-sharing your day-to-day life seems to offend people. In this case, the heavily pregnant lady wasn't showing even after eight months.
All hell broke loose when someone found out; the person accused the woman of deliberately hiding the fact since there were no updates on her profile. This is what happens when you are friends only on social media. What if someone wants to keep everything private from everyone? The pregnant woman had every right to keep it a secret if that was her intention in the first place.
We are not making this up, but subway rides can bring out the worst in people. That in no way discounts the fact that there are good samaritans who help fellow passengers any chance they get. Most of us were raised to offer our seats to the elderly, the wounded, or the pregnant women.
So, it must be a shocking sight when on a subway ride, a pregnant lady who was in dire need of a seat was publicly rebuked by a rude passenger for getting knocked up in the first place, that too by a man without a car. Ouch! It's never okay to verbally annihilate a woman flush with pregnancy who already has enough on her plate.
Pregnancy is both an exciting adventure and a nerve-wracking one. Pregnant women often get anxious during the nine months, wondering about the growth and health of the child they are carrying inside. In this instance, a woman, during her delivery by C-section, became anxious and wanted to know where her baby was.
Her repeated questions were met with silence, which made her panic. Then she heard a rude response from a nurse saying she wasn't the show's star anymore. It might be a regular day for the staff, but it's a precious moment for her, and they shouldn't have spoiled her experience with their snide remarks.
You are fortunate if you've never heard of this absurd folk belief. Unfortunately, this particular relative isn't the only one who believes that girls rob their mothers of their beauty during pregnancy. At the same time, boys make her look even more attractive.
Unfortunately, there is no scientific evidence to back up this claim. In reality, pregnant women are usually exhausted, dealing with fluctuating hormones, and dealing with morning sickness. All of this usually doesn't make for a beauty queen, no matter what the gender of the baby is. We hope that this conversation is never brought up again!
Having a baby can be an excellent opportunity to bring a family closer together. It is a chance for a new start, to reset any strained relationships between parents and their children. Dads may be able to offer words of wisdom and encouragement. For those who are becoming grandparents, it is a time to relax and enjoy the new addition.
And for children who have become parents, it can be a chance to gain understanding and a newfound appreciation of their parents. Unfortunately, not all families are so lucky. This woman's father seemed to stay stuck in his cold and selfish ways, denying himself and everyone else the joys of a close relationship.
It is a mystery as to whom this inquisitive person is that asked the pregnant woman if all was alright between her and the baby's father. It is unlikely it was someone close to her, as they would already be aware of the situation. The individual in question was attractive, although this is of little relevance.
We can conclude this was either an acquaintance or a stranger who was inappropriately prying into a private matter. If only people would focus on their affairs instead of meddling in someone else's, the world would definitely be a better place than it is now - more so than striving for world peace.
As we enter our third decade of the 21st century, it's still remarkable that some people believe in "boy colors" and "girl colors." Factually speaking, there is no such thing. Colors are simply a result of light waves stimulating our eyes. Even more absurd is the idea that only boys find dinosaurs incredible.
We take offense to that suggestion, especially considering the remarkable performance of Bryce Dallas Howard in Jurassic World. Even though men and women may come from different planets, everyone can appreciate the awesome appeal of dinosaurs. They are a cosmic, universal truth.
We need a moment to process this line we've heard from somewhere. It's pretty unsettling on multiple levels. Smaller issues, such as the idea that the first-time mother's only wish for her baby is for it to be a girl, are still quite concerning.
Even worse, it implies that the mother will "lose" her current pregnancy if the baby turns out to be a boy. This is a major problem. We can't go back in time and hope for a different outcome - it's a boy. What's done is done; let's not talk about "losing" him and instead focus on having a healthy baby, regardless of gender.
We hope to get to that point soon when people don't judge others based on their body art. As time goes on, more and more people in today's culture are becoming comfortable with those who have tattoos. Let's be honest. Even with the warning "Don't judge a book by its cover," we still do that often. Same reason the old lady was quick to conclude about the future mom.
What someone wears may reveal something about them, but it need not define them. In the end, it is not the tattoos that define a person, but the person. So refrain from making snap judgments. You could be passing up an opportunity to connect with a remarkable person.
Our choices can either make or break the most important things in our lives. In this case, the girl's father had the right to choose vacation over his future grandchild. Unfortunately, his pregnant daughter couldn't control his actions, which would only hurt their relationship. As adults, we must take charge of our lives by learning to deal with the things we can't control.
One of the ways to do that is to know when and how to disconnect from other people's decisions that hurt us. At least the granddad will have all the vacations he wants without his grandchild. We pray he gets to fix that fast.
"Never assume you understand; ask the questions." But why and how in the world do you want to know why a bird flies instead of crawling like a serpent? Who falls into the "was it planned" category? You better not say that again to a pregnant woman. That's pretty private; why do you want to dig into that?
Pray, you don't ask mean moms; they'd be like, "Planned? Seriously, I have no idea whose offspring this is! God bless hubby, I guess." That's probably a better way to prevent the "But... why" follow-up. We're guessing you have no idea why you're asking such a question. Like, they wanted a baby, and that's it. What else do you want to hear? Watch out; it seems they are probably playing birth control detective.
It's normal for a pregnant woman to waddle like a penguin, feeling weak and occasionally leaning back while walking. Nonetheless, it's not normal to answer Mrs. Waddle. You don't call her Mrs. Waddle even if you are her father. Don't you get it? Like, a thief wants to take all your belongings but doesn't want to be called a "thief."
No one wants to be associated with negativity, so why do you want to add to her burden of growing a human? It's even worse calling a pregnant doctor Mrs. Waddle. She's probably been up all day trying to save a life, and calling her Mrs. Waddle would simply ruin that opportunity of salting a savior's life.
Nothing frightens people more than painting a negative picture of an event, whether from a movie or a true story to someone in the same situation. For example, imagine crossing the Savanna and a friend calls telling you how great the Savanna is for seeing buffalo and lions. Then suddenly veers off to how a lion jumped inside a vehicle and killed all the passengers. Wouldn't that be scary?
Who knows, you could be another biblical Samson. What's even worse is playing something similar on a pregnant woman. We don't care if you are telling a movie. How do you want to make her feel by telling her how you watched someone deliver a dead baby the same week as hers?
When you need to pay the bills, working becomes a significant part of you, right? So you can't blame a lady in her third trimester for choosing what pays the bills and keeps the cash inflow coming because she's pregnant, which is why she's still at work.
Looking at the situation, working with all that stress and exhaustion for a pregnant woman calls for concern, and she knows that, so why say it? You don't expect a pregnant woman to respond to such remarks. Implying that you'd rather she stay at home and get no pay at the end of the day, feeling hopeless and penniless, makes the situation worse.
You would wish to peel the skin off arrogant family members who'd rather wish you had constant miscarriages than happiness. On the other hand, who does that? This family has someone who does that.
We've got your uncle and aunt pushing for your mom to get a miscarriage. What a cruel intention!; but this prayer for a miscarriage is because her aunt was scared for you. She thought her love for you as an adopted child would fade with time, pending when this child comes. Scary, right? We're sure this has you thinking a lot.
Bedroom positions don't determine the gender of your baby, so why are you having this counter attendant worry about what position you were in while you had it?
Fun girl gossip has you close to laughter in a chokehold. Will it feel strange having a random person ask about your position in bed when you last had fun in the bedroom? If that came from someone close, having that awkward look wouldn't be the case. Now you've got a checkout attendant saying this to you, and you're dumbfounded, feeling like she was there while you had it before conceiving.
It's cool to have thoughts jumping in your head when you see a belly bump, but don't you think it should linger in your mind? You don't need this seller to pick up the challenge of guessing if you're fat or storing the world's energy under your dress.
There's no need for him to shout his congratulations or try to figure out if there's a child or some rock in your tummy. It doesn't sound right. Having this seller focus on selling his pickle while you have some fun would feel nice.
Shocking, right? It doesn't look good assuming how many babies she has or what your suspicions are based on how her tummy looks. If you're trying to give a nice compliment, look elsewhere, you might find ladies without tummies as big as a whale.
Stop trying to come up with winning statements if her unborn children are twins, as if you were betting big on the correct prediction with her as your pawn in the game. We think it's insensitive to stop her because she's heavy, asking about what it means to be pregnant.
Unsolicited counsel is a problem, and it's more unnerving when someone gives it while acting insensitively. May we point out that the information always turns out to be irrelevant? The pregnant woman's nausea was at a turning point, and she would throw up more than 30 times daily.
It turned lethal; She had a permanent VI line put in her chest so that she could be administered dehydrating fluids and nausea-preventing medication. Maybe she never thought to try ginger ale and crackers before having an invasive, life-changing treatment. Still, go up to her to ask questions.
The age-long conversation on which gender wears what color will never go away ("Pink is just too feminine"), yadayada. The color role plays deep into the child's existence, to the point where children are identified with the color they are wrapped in.
In an era when everyone is popping colors to reveal the gender of their babies, some individuals would rather live through the 40 weeks of anxiety and excitement and allow the baby to reveal itself. Challenging that on the basis of some color blasters is blatantly ludicrous.
Sincerely, no matter the digging, we cannot wrap our heads around the curiosity that gave rise to the assumption that the mother is placing her baby up for adoption.
It is riddled with many disturbing questions about how terrible a human you think the mother is, which leads to the conclusion that she is unfit to nurse a child. Those are unfounded presumptions to parade about a person, so maybe carefully think through them before throwing them in her face about how she is unsuited to tend to a child.
When you awaken to conversations like these, you are compelled to consider the time in which you were born. Thankfully, we no longer live in the 1950s, so sure, we have moved past this. Yet, in her parallel reality, the elderly woman is giving the expectant cashier woman unwelcome advice, alleging that she has soiled herself because she is unmarried and, therefore, unsuitable to bear a child.
Regrettably, she had to endure some of the most agonizing five minutes of her life. All thanks to her superior, who thought the old lady's money was more valuable than his subordinate's mental well-being.
Our understanding of the brief encounter is that a couple was holding hands when someone approached the expectant woman and inquired about the child's father's identity. She would have undoubtedly raised an eyebrow to show her disgust before gathering her breath to answer with a resounding "yes." Instead, the oddball gave the man a second look to pique their interest.
Since they insisted he couldn't be the father, the man should, in all honesty, be outraged that he was entirely ignored. Instead, it was a blow he took very casually.
Of all the insensitive, casually cruel things a close relative ever said to a pregnant woman, this may just be the worst. Oh, this second pregnancy isn't as exciting for this lady as the first one - the one they lost - was? Well, what a difficult time this must be for this grandma.
We're glad to see she found the strength to carry on somehow, even seeing the silver lining in her grandson's wife making it past week 11. See, we almost thought she was genuinely a bad person. Silly us!
So many unfortunate and devastating events occur in this world. Still, of all of them, nothing compares to the loss of life, especially loved ones. So if it could be prevented somehow, we're confident people, especially pregnant women, would stop at nothing to prevent that. How is this not common knowledge to employees who feel the urge to pin down the pregnancy loss on the mother even when it isn't her fault?
Even if it was, under no circumstances must they be made to feel awful for a mistake they never intended to make. Extend your congratulations and move along without causing a scene. Allow them to breathe.
The unsolicited opinions of some people in this age and time can really be silly; if not so, tell us why the cashier casually asks a pregnant woman, “You know that’s a Vietnamese name, right?” as if the person she’s asking was ignorant of that fact.
Even though the pregnant woman was still trying to figure out the context of her question, the cashier added that her baby might be born ugly because it was mixed-race! The audacity! Babies are beautiful, and mixed-race babies are no exceptions, but if you have a contrary opinion, wouldn’t it be wise to keep that to yourself?
We think that a line should be drawn between genuine concern and being unnecessarily dramatic and creepy. Once you find that line, don't cross it.
If the co-worker in the scenario being described here had done so, she wouldn't have accosted a pregnant co-worker when she saw her heading to the bathroom to ask such an insensitive question while also condemning her choice about using a midwife to deliver her baby. So when you think about the situation, it is not only the co-worker's action that was out of line; the motive behind it is pretty dangerous.
A lot of things happen that some people need to understand. For instance, the mother in this discourse needs to realize that having a paid job and paying taxes doesn't absolve you from needing financial aid. Yes, stuff happens.
The above isn't even as important as the mother's claim toward her daughter's unborn child because she pays taxes and her daughter is on Medicaid. If she felt that way about her daughter, what could be her thoughts about strangers on Medicaid as well?